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Can my marriage be saved?

Do you want to stay married and have doubts in couples counseling? Is your marriage on the brink of divorce but you want to make sure you do not miss anything before making a decision? Is your spouse is seriously talking about divorce but you are not ready? Do you want to know if your marital issues are solvable? If you answer 'yes' to one of these questions, discernment counseling is for you.

Discernment counseling is an intensive, short-term process lasting for less than 5 sessions. The goals of discernment counseling are to gain clarity and confidence in a direction of the marriage, based on a deeper understanding of what has happened to the marriage and each person's contributions to the problems. The outcomes are framed in terms of three paths: to stay married, to move towards divorce, or to work on the marriage for six months to see if the marriage will be put into a better place, with a clear agenda of personal change and with divorce off the table during this time.

Benefits of Discernment Counseling

  • A developed plan for the future that both partners can accept.

  • An understanding of where the relationship currently stands.

  • A happier collective future for the couple, together or apart

  • It provides a foundation for further relationship rebuilding if further relationship work is warranted.

  • It sets the stage for constructive future if divorce is chosen.

If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you need local crisis intervention/support in the Bay Area, check out Bay Area Suicide Crisis & Intervention Alliance (BASCIA) online. I do not offer crisis counseling or emergency services. 

Bassy Lee is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist  at Couples Recovery Center and is supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, a Couple Counselor, and is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation. Couples Recovery Center provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:


The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.



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