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Whatever the reason is, you feel that your spouse is different. The "spark" in your marriage has been diminished and the rhythm of your daily life is shifting to feel more conflict-oriented. Small arguments can turn into big blowouts. Interactions are turning unhealthy and dysfunctional. You or your partner shuts down, gets reactive, or passive-aggressive. Maybe you feel easily misunderstood or frequently ignored. Something is not right in your marriage but you are not sure what or why.

John Gottman's research shows that how a couple handles conflict is one of the best predictors of whether their relationship will go the distance. There is no shortage of unhealthy and unloving ways to handle conflicts — which serves to make the initial problem much worse.


A marriage therapist can be helpful to any couple relationship, whether you are seeking improved intimacy and understanding, or considering separation. You will gain tools to address the unhealthy patterns, resolve conflicts, set goals, listen, love, and respect each other.

Common issues in couples seeking therapy:

communication, anger or resentment, parenting, family of origin, sex/intimacy, infidelity, infertility, divorce, grief/loss, depression, anxiety, neurodiversity, chronic illness, blended family, in-laws or extended family, addiction, codependency, cross-cultural, and life transitions.

First session:

Please schedule 1.5 hours for the first session to allow time to set goals and experience the counseling process.  The recurring session is 50-minute.

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If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you need local crisis intervention/support in the Bay Area, check out Bay Area Suicide Crisis & Intervention Alliance (BASCIA) online. I do not offer crisis counseling or emergency services. 

Bassy Lee is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist  at Couples Recovery Center and is supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, a Couple Counselor, and is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation. Couples Recovery Center provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:


The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.



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