The First 5 Years of Marriage

Real marriage comes long after the wedding, in the midst of actual day-to-day living. Marriage is put to the test when you have to actually put in work to keep those vows and cling to the love you had on that starry-eyed day.


The long-term success of a marriage depends heavily on how well couples make the adjustment during the first five years.  

John Gottman's research has discovered that even though all couples experience conflict in their marriages, happy couples apparently know how to handle their disagreements because of a foundation of affection and friendship. Unhappy couples do not have this skill set.

You do not have to wait for crisis to see a marriage counselor.  It is wise to prepare yourselves and build a strong foundation that will give fulfillment as you celebrate your life together as couple.

Bride and Groom
The First Five Years
After saying "I do"

If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you need local crisis intervention/support in the Bay Area, check out Bay Area Suicide Crisis & Intervention Alliance (BASCIA) online. I do not offer crisis counseling or emergency services. 

Bassy Lee is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist  at Couples Recovery Center and is supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, a Couple Counselor, and is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation. Couples Recovery Center provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:


The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.



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